According to Market Samurai, an excellent keyword research tool, 2,975 people search on the internet every day looking for “heartbreak quotes”. These searches probably include sad song lyrics as well. This number really surprised me. I suppose the logic is that people who are going through a heartbreak of some kind may find comfort in knowing they are not alone, that others are suffering too or have suffered in the past.
I think the danger here is that a person could latch onto some heartbreak quotes or song lyrics which play over and over in their head, reinforcing their negative belief system that life is difficult and love hurts, which then shows up as a recurring pattern in their life.
Here is a story of what I mean. Several years ago, a fellow named George who lived in my area of the city, offered me a ride to and from work. Since this saved me about an hour a day in transit time, I happily accepted. What I wasn’t aware of was that George loved to play country music in his car and so each morning I was greeted with the words of Hank Williams “I’m so lonesome, I could cry, your cheatin heart, take these chains from my heart” and various other artist’s renditions with similar words and themes. In short, song after song bellowed as we drove across town, most of them about heartache and love gone wrong.
Over the next several weeks I found myself becoming increasingly sad and depressed for no apparent reason that I could think of. And then I finally realized that the music was saturating my mind and affecting my body and my spirit.
And so one morning, I asked George to tell me about his love life. I wasn’t the least bit surprised when he recounted story after story of women who had hurt, betrayed and let him down. There was great sadness in his eyes and a deep tenderness in his voice, as he told me that he had never really had a good relationship with anyone, as hard as he had tried, and as much as he had wanted one. My heart went out to him.
I suggested the possibility to George that the music he was playing was continually reinforcing his belief that relationships never work out and falling in love hurts, and out picturing that in his life, over and over again. I advised George to get rid of his music library. He looked at me in amazement, as if I had asked him to give up his first born child and protested that he could never do that.
To save my own sanity, I made the choice to stop riding with him that evening and the strange thing was that the very next day his car was broken into and all of his CD’s were stolen. There were many valuable items in the back seat as well, but nothing else had been taken, just the county music. I think the Universe was trying to tell him something in a much louder way than I had.
So, if you are one of those 2,975 people looking for comfort in this same way, please make sure that the songs you are listening to and the quotations you are reading are giving you a positive message of possibility and triumph over adversity.
I will leave you with some positive heartbreak quotes. I hope you find some comfort, courage and inspiration in them.
The best way to mend a broken heart is time and girlfriends.
~ Gwyneth Paltrow
The greatest tragedy of life is not that men perish,
but that they cease to love. ~ W. Somerset Maugham
If you love someone, let them go.
If they return to you, it was meant to be.
If they don’t their love was never yours to begin with.
Some of us think holding on makes us strong:
but sometimes it is letting go. ~ Hermann Hesse
And now I’m glad I didn’t know
The way it all would end
The way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance
I could have missed the pain
But I’d of had to miss the dance.
~ Garth Brooks – The Dance
When the heart grieves over what it has lost,
the spirit rejoices over what is has left.
~ Sufi Ipigram
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