It is very important not to be attached to the outcome of things that we do. Not to care so much or at all for that matter about what people think of us. This is very often easier said than done and something that I have been working on of late.
We have grown accustomed to feeling good when people approve and admire us and tell us so and feeling hurt or taken aback when they criticize us.
But this always sets us up to hand the power over how we feel about ourselves to someone else.
We need to be able to do, say, and act from our own authentic place, in spite of the outcome, to be able to simply do or say what calls to us, because it brings us joy and / or feels like it is something we must say or do and let go of the outcome or consequences.
This has been very true with my own writing. My mailing list, websites and this blog, consist of people in various stages of evolution. Sometimes, what I have to say may confuse or even upset someone, but that doesn’t mean that I have to be afraid to say it. Some people may take what I say and run with it, allowing it to open them up to insights and possibilities they had not even considered yet which is always my hope and intention. Others may think I am just crazy and unsubscribe or not return here. Their response must not matter to me, otherwise it will colour what I have to offer and not be as pure and heartfelt as I would like it to be. People will always pick up on that at a deep level. You cannot fool them. When you come from your heart, it always shines through. When you are pretending, because you want to be liked, admired or accepted, you are really not fooling anyone but yourself and it never works out in the long run.
I have always wanted to offer something deeper here, something much more meaningful than a nice, uplifting quotation. Don’t get me wrong, that is still a great thing to offer but there are hundreds of places online where people can get that. But much is going on in the world right now and we are moving far beyond all of that and into places we have not ventured into before. Many are confused, in turmoil and struggling. It is my feeling that people want and need so much more now and it is my hope to fill that void regardless of where it may take me.
I simply need to be true to myself and offer what I have to give or what comes up for me at the time. And it may be a very light hearted piece such as I sent out last Friday, about making wishes for others, or something much more profound. As I said, this is something I work on everyday still.
I thought this might be something for you to think about in your own life this morning. Where are you being true to yourself and where do you hesitate to come from your own authentic place and why?
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Wishing you a true, meaningful, authentic and heartfelt day.